You’ve organised a gift box to send to someone you care about, but what do you write in the card?
The best advice is to write from the heart. The main thing is that you’re letting them know that they’re loved, missed and in your thoughts. Kathy from Wishing You Well has hand written thousands of cards over the years, so she can steer you in the right direction if you’re lost.
Along with a kind sentiment, if you can offer additional help it’s better to be specific. When people ask 'What can I do for you?' or 'How can I help?' it often puts more pressure on the sick person because they have to put effort into coming up with something specific. They end up saying, 'I'm okay for now,' or 'I don't need anything.' So offer to do something specifically for them. For example offer to organise some meals to be delivered to them, or if you work with them offer to do some of their work.
I’ve listed some ideas below, the categories are flexible. Feel free to use, add or change them to suit.
Things to write for someone who’s sick:
- I am wishing you the best possible outcome.
- Get better and get back to your amazing self soon!
- I want to remind you how strong you are. We’re thinking about you everyday and wishing for a fast recovery.
- I'll call you soon to find out exactly what I can do for you.
- I am here for you if you need a friend.
- You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Things to write for someone who has cancer and/or going through chemotherapy:
Sometimes it is hard to know what to say to someone who has cancer, and it can depend on what type and what stage they have. Some patients were asked what they loved to hear during their cancer journey, generally they appreciated honesty and support, here are some ideas.
- I don't know what to say but I'm here for you.
- You’re on my mind and in my heart.
- Don’t hesitate to call on me.
- I want to help, so please know that you’re not alone.
- I’m here with you every step of the way.
- You can call on me anytime, for anything.
- You are still the same amazing person you’ve always been.
For a colleague some ideas are:
- Recovery is hard work—but you’re not alone. Not a day goes by that you aren’t thought of and wished well.
- Now’s the time to rest and recuperate! Hope you get better soon!
- I/we realized just how much I/we need you when you’re out of commission. Get better soon!
- Hope you bounce back soon! Then we’ll make sure to celebrate!
- Sending you lots of feel-better hugs!
- Sending good, healthy vibes your way.
- Warmest wishes for a speedy recovery!
- Miss you around here!
So, if you remember to be honest, genuine and offer support you'll be on the right track, and if you get stuck Kathy can help you out. You've shown how much you care by organising a wonderful gift box /care package so the card's the icing on the cake.
Simone Duckmanton, Wishing You Well